In couple counseling I act as a coach. Together we identify the skills that protect relationship and allow the partners to work through the difficult times and decrease discord. Differences are explored using dialogue. Repeated patterns of interaction which interfere with getting along are identified and new ways of interacting encouraged.
Sometimes individual growth and self-discovery is an added benefit of the work. My intent is to guide to a mature dependence and deeper intimacy.

Recommended reading:
Intimate Partners, by Maggie Scarf
The Dance of Connection, by Harriet Lerner
Nonviolent Communication, by Marshall B. Rosenberg

Please read this article by Dr. Marguerite
Happily Ever After